Hi, I'm brand new on here and leaving my first post. I've had back, neck and shoulder pain now for 17 years. Lotsa meds, all the typical methods, no surgery has ever been an option. I'm with a very large, do-nothing insurance provider. My problem is my depression. It's really gotten worse in the last year or two. As I suffer from the moment I sit up in bed to the moment I go to bed, I'm in a lot of pain. My wife who's heard it all before has grown cold to my needs of her sympathy and compassion. And of course, this leads to greater depression which I already have in spades! She can barely muster up a ''how're you doing today?'' and this is because I've told her that I NEED her to at least ask and show she cares! We've talked about this so much and she just doesn't get the need I have for a little verbal compassion and sympathy. Am I mental here, or is she the one who's missing this human element? 40 yrs. married, and I've even told her that I can't go on in such a marriage like this, but who wants this tired old man now? I hope I get some comments from ya'll out there. Thanks for listening!