Hello, I'm new this site. My husband has been diagnosed with DDD about 7 years ago. His L4 and L5 disks are almost gone and his L3 is on its way. He has seen several doctors and two surgeons and neither one recommends surgery due to his young age (30) and the potential of the 3d disk deteriorating. He has had a disco gram had and lots of epidurals that no longer work. Right now his pain is being treated by narcotics (morphine) and other pills that make him loopy (in a drunken state). Thing seem to be getting significantly worse for the past year. Right now we are going through a tough time right now and he seems to be medicated all the time (which makes me very angry because he's completely out of it). There is no little to any intimacy in our marriage, partly due to the pills and his pain. I'm not sure what to do and at my wits end. I can't ask him to stop taking the pills because it gives him a little relief from his back pain but on the other side of it, I want my husband back and miss him. He and I argue about little stuff because I get so frustrated when he is on his pills. He doesn't understand why I get so angry and I can't begin to understand or comprehend the pain he endures every day. I have a hard time expressing my feeling to anyone because people don’t understand the situlation and may accuse him that he may have an addiction to the meds. There are days I wonder myself if he may have an addiction. He lost his job about 2 months ago (due to company cut backs) and is currently not working but taking care of our 2 year old son. The other day he asked me what I thought about him going on full disability due to the constant pain he is in and his inability to find a job. I have serious doubt about that due to how young he is and how much more life he has ahead of him. He is so tired of doctors poking and prodding him, I hate to try anymore doctors. I partly wonder if he depressed from hurting so much and the lack of job. I’d appreciate any help or words of advice any one has.