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Its amazing just how fast something terrible can happen

dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 12,988
edited 06/11/2012 - 8:42 AM in Matters of the Heart
I just got off the phone with my wife. One of our good friends was working on his house yesterday on a ladder and while coming down, lost his balance and fell about 6 feet right on his back.

He is in the hospital now with a good portion of his spine shattered. From early reports its from about T5 down to the Lumbar discs. They did emergency surgery to remove vertebrae and disc fragments away from the nerve.

Right now, he has no feeling from the knees down. The surgeon has painted a pretty grim picture. He believes that the paralysis is permanent and that in fact it could go higher up to his waist level.

I just saw him the other day in our wine shop. We were talking about when my boat is ready so we can do evening cocktail/dinner cruises. Now, he just might be faced with
permanent paralysis.

It can happen oh so fast. You know so many times we take things for granted and we fret over little things.

My heart is down, not only because he is a good friend, but because I do know the pain/suffering a spinal patient has to go through. But his is worse. I know that I will need to spend time with him talking to him and just being there as a friend.

Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences 


  • This is so tragic; I am so sorry about your friend's accident. Right now he is in good hands and getting the best treatment possible.Hopefully somehow he can overcome this serious injury and get back on his feet again some day. I know you'll be there faithfully by his side and he is fortunate to have a friend like you. Our thoughts and prayers are with him and his family too.
  • It is amazing how life can change in just the blink of an eye. This man is lucky to have you as a friend. He has someone to talk to that can understand much of what he is dealing with and much of what he has to face.

    Hang in there,

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  • Prayers for him and his family and friends. It's such a shock when this happens to someone close to you. My brother shattered his spine from falling 3 stories 25 years ago and now he's 51 and still limps but is able to walk. I pray this for your friend. We can hope and pray for the best. Take care. Charry
    DDD of lumbar spine with sciatica to left hip,leg and foot. L4-L5 posterior disc bulge with prominent facets, L5-S1 prominent facets with a posterior osteocartilaginous bar. Mild bilateral foraminal narrowing c-spine c4-c7 RN
  • Oh Ron, I am so sorry! This is just terrible news! Sending well wishes and prayers for strength, courage and comfort to him and his family & friends. How blessed he is to have you are a friend!

    I am so sorry to hear your news! Praying! Shari
  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 12,988
    I can not thank you all enough for your well wishes.
    To me, this is what Spine-Health is all about.

    Bonding - Even though we may never meet we are on the same wave length

    Caring - That is when our hearts pour out to another one that needs help, doesnt matter where the problem is, we just not that another member is hurting.

    Awareness - Knowing that we, collectively have an extra edge on many others. We can learn, we can understand so much about spinal problems.

    And the best, I dont even have a word or phrase to describe it. Its just something that we as members can feel from others. We understand each other and when someone expresses their concern about you or other situations, you know it is heartfelt.

    I just want to let all of you know that I appreciate your kind words and thoughts. Most of you know by now, that I am a firm believer in our mind and positive thinking and attitudes. That is what can really help us get through the toughest times.

    Now, it is my turn to give my friend all the positive thoughts and strength to get through it all.

    Again my thanks to all of you
    Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences 
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  • just... so, so sorry... to be reading this news of your friend, Ron.

    This news truly has hit home over here and my family and I will be saying many prayers for your friend and his family.

    If there is any way I can help, please let me know.

    How wonderful it is that your friend and his family have you to reach out to for support. With your shoulder surgery coming up, you both will be recovering together. You even have the opportunity to be in each other's company during your recoveries. That is something I think we all wish for, at times. Just someone close by, who knows exactly how we are feeling. You'll have that opportunity and what a blessing it will be for your friend.

    Please keep us posted with any news you receive.

    Best wishes to your friend,

  • Sorry to hear about your friend Ron, its a terrible accident that will leave life changing events in your friends future and he is going to need the support of friends like you.

    I haven't posted as much lately because I have felt that my back pain and on going back issues pale in comparrison to my mum being diagnosed with lung cancer, she is in England, I am in the USA............feeling so far away and helpless. I recently lost a friend to lung cancer that died within 3 months of diagnosis, she was only 43!! I was going to be scheduled for another decompression surgery in June when school gets out (I am a TA), but now I will be heading home to take care of my mum and put my surgery on hold.

    Life is short, we never know what awaits us around the corner. We should have love and compassion for each other. Time spent on anger, revenge or bitterness is a waste of engery that could be spent in more constructive avenues.

    I wish everyone well and pray for all those in pain that better days lie ahead.

    Special prayers for your friend Ron as he recovers in the hospital.

  • Ron,

    So sorry to hear this happen! I am sending positive energy towards him, his family and you! Like was said on this thread, having you as a friend will be a big bonus for him, both as bonded friend support, and a real good idea what he has to deal with, and what it will/could be like. Fingers crossed that his paralysis does not move up, and he is able to walk again when he heals. Take care. *HUGZ*

    PCTF C4 - T2, Laminectomies C5, C6 & C7. Severe Palsy left arm/hand.
  • dilaurodilauro ConnecticutPosts: 12,988
    Your words and ideas are something that everyone should read and re-read.
    They are so simple, but so very very dear and true.
    In one short post, you captured so much about life.

    My thanks to you for your post
    Ron DiLauro Veritas-Health Forums Manager
    I am not a medical professional. I comment on personal experiences 
  • Such tragic news about your friend. There's really several lessons in this for all, that our lives can change in an instant and live it to the fullest, that there are others far worse off than we are who need our support, and that we can make such a difference in someone else's life. Your friend is so fortunate to have you there. You'll both be in my thoughts.

    In time, I can see you both sipping cocktails on that boat....

    Best to you,

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