Hello all! :H
I thought it might be a good idea to begin a thread topic just for our Caretakers -
(kinda like the sticky ones we have about what we - as patients - might expect from surgery, prepping for the day, being home, recovery, etc.)
I'd like to get one going that would have helpful info that our caretakers might need to know. Many of us have families and such that often don't seem to understand how long these recoveries can be and it adds to the stress, frustration, and depression that many spiney patients have to deal with.
After these spinal surgeries, the patient's life is literally put on hold for a while - often for months at a time - and family, spouses, etc. can put unintentional pressure on the patient, often making them feel like they have to do more than they should, just to try to maintain the status quo for our families.
I haven't had my surgery yet (probably in December if I can wait that long) - but I'm a bit worried about the recovery part and my hubby as caretaker. He's a super loving, thoughtful guy and will totally spoil me, but he is also the really "go-getting," work-a-holic type - whereas I'm more laid back and mellow. After reading a lot of other stories here, I fear that my family group might - not purposely - make me feel pressured to rush the recovery.
So, I suppose I'm asking everyone to maybe share their ideas and thoughts to help make a list of things that our caretakers need to know, and maybe make suggestions on how they can be of the most help to during our recovery period. Maybe even ask your own spouses/caretakers what they experienced. Stuff like what the caretakers can really expect, what things we'll likely be forbidden to do, what they can do to help alleviate some of the pressures of running the household, etc.
I'd love to hear your thoughts and how you handled family, responsibilities, social obligations, etc...It would be great to have a list that could maybe even be printed out to give to our spouses, family, friends, and caretakers. O:)